Who says good sex only belongs to a certain body type? There’s no need to get frustrated when certain traditional poses feel uncomfortable or difficult to achieve because of your body shape! The key is to find a position that suits your body, and with a few gadgets and adjustments, you can have an intimate experience that’s passionate, pleasurable, and satisfying.
“At its core, good sex is about communication and emotional connection,” emphasizes Michael Gray, a licensed marriage and family therapist and sexologist. “It’s not just limited to penetration. Using vibrators, toys or sex props to enhance comfort and pleasure is perfectly natural and encouraged.”
This article will introduce 6 sex positions that are either optimized for plus-size bodies or work well in their own right, and provide adjustments and spice-up ideas to help you discover more comfortable and pleasurable ways to be intimate. Remember, the key is to enjoy the process, keep trying and adjusting, and find the one that works best for you!
Universal comfort tips for plus-size bodies:
– Make good use of support: Pillows and wedges are great tools to improve comfort and help with deep penetration! Pads placed under the waist, hips or knees can significantly improve the experience.
– Fun furniture: No need to buy expensive sex furniture. Use a stable low bookshelf, sturdy dresser edge, sofa arm, or bed edge in your home to create a more comfortable and less labor-intensive support point.
– Show confidence: Choose lingerie that makes you feel sexy and confident. Your body deserves to be appreciated and enjoyed!
– Communication and flexibility: Not all positions are suitable for every couple. Keep communication open and be willing to experiment and adapt. If a gesture doesn’t work, laugh it off and try again in a different way. The most important thing is to enjoy the process of exploration!
– Lubricant is your friend: No matter what position you are trying, using a good quality water-based or silicone-based lubricant can greatly improve comfort and pleasure.
Now, discover the pose that works for you:
Bedside Passion (Edge of Glory)
– Posture points: One person lies on his back on the edge of the bed, with his buttocks as close to the edge as possible, his legs raised and placed on the shoulders of his standing partner or around his waist. Penetration is performed with the standing partner at the edge of the bed.
– Pros: This position allows for deep face-to-face penetration, easy eye contact and kissing, and a strong sense of emotional connection. The standing partner’s hands are free to stimulate the other person’s clitoris.
– How to spice things up: A standing partner can flexibly control the pace and depth. The supine partner or the standing partner can have their hands free to use a vibrator to stimulate the clitoris.
– Comfort adjustment:
– Lumbar support: For supine partners, a pillow can be placed under the waist to reduce pressure on the back and adjust the angle.
– Leg support: If lifting a leg is difficult, the standing partner can support the other person’s thigh or calf with their arms.
– Modified version: If lying on your back is uncomfortable, you can try prone positioning: the recipient lies on his stomach, with a pillow under the hips, and the standing partner lifts his legs from behind for penetration. The recipient can bend their legs and place their feet against their partner to share the weight.
Sweet side penetration (honey)
– Posture points: The recipient lies on his side with his legs together or one leg straight and one leg bent (adjusted according to comfort). The inserting partner kneels on one knee in the back (to reduce the pressure on the abdomen), with the other foot on the ground to maintain stability, and perform side-to-back insertion.
– Advantages: The side-lying position is very relaxing and puts less pressure on the abdomen. Kneeling on one knee provides the penetrating partner with greater control and stability. is a comfortable and intimate variation of doggy style.
– How to spice it up: Depending on the space between thighs and belly, the recipient can masturbate during penetration. Try wearing a vibrating cock ring to add extra stimulation to both of you.
– Comfort adjustment:
– Hip Elevation: Placing a pillow under your side sleeping partner’s hip can significantly change the angle of penetration, making entry easier and deeper.
– Auxiliary tools: If the penetration depth or length feels insufficient, consider using a condom or extender.
– Leg position: Try bending your top leg and raising it (the “scissor leg” position), or resting your top leg on your kneeling partner’s thigh to find the most comfortable and stable angle.
– Supportive grip: The penetrating partner can grasp the partner’s buttocks or thighs to assist the movement.
Doggy style riding (liberated lover)
– Position key: The partner below lies on his back. The partner on top sits astride him, facing each other (traditional woman on top). After entering, the upper partner can lean back, place his hands behind the other person’s legs or behind himself (such as on the bed, the floor), and move by bouncing up and down or swinging his hips back and forth/in circles.
– Advantages: The upper partner has complete control and can accurately find the angle and rhythm that makes him most comfortable and pleasurable. The backward leaning position prevents the abdomen from being pressed against the partner below, allowing for more free space. The lower partner’s hands are completely free, and they can freely caress their partner’s body, stimulate their clitoris, or use toys.
– How to spice things up: The lower partner actively stimulates the upper partner with their hands, mouth or vibrator. The partner above tries different butt movement trajectories (back and forth, circular motion) to rub the G-spot. Use a compact vibrator for added stimulation.
– Comfort adjustment:
– Knee protection: place a soft pad or pillow under your partner’s knees above you.
-Hand support: If balance is difficult when leaning back, the partner above can rest on the headboard or use their hands to support the floor/bed behind them.
– Squatting variation: If your knees are uncomfortable, the partner on top can try squatting (with the balls of your feet on the ground) instead of kneeling. This requires some leg strength but allows for better weight control and avoids knee stress.
Classic doggy style
– Posture points: The recipient supports the body on hands and knees (all fours on the ground), and the back can be kept straight or slightly arched. Penetration is performed with your partner kneeling or standing behind them.
– Advantages: Allows very deep penetration and stimulates the G-spot (for those with vulvas). Delivering an experience full of raw passion and tension. The recipient is free to move his hips to match the rhythm.
– How to spice things up: The recipient lowers their upper body and supports it on their forearms (raising their hips), which allows them to vary the depth and angle. The giving partner can stroke, pat the buttocks, kiss the back, or use toys to stimulate the perineal/anal area. Use lube enough!
– Comfort adjustment:
– Abdominal support: Placing one or more pillows or wedge-shaped cushions under the recipient’s chest and abdomen can greatly relieve low back pressure, provide support space for the abdomen, and may improve the insertion angle.
– Chest Support: Recipients with larger breasts can place a small pillow or rolled towel under the chest for added comfort.
– Elbow support: If wrist discomfort occurs, the recipient can support the upper body with their elbows and forearms (similar to the “sea lion” position).
– Standing height difference: If you are giving your partner a standing position, you can use the height of the bed or have the recipient kneel on a stable low stool/cushion to adjust to a height that is comfortable for both parties.
Rear Joy (Backstage Pass)
– POSE KEY POINTS: This position focuses on anal sex or anal stimulation. Allow your partner to sit comfortably on the edge of the bed, a sturdy chair, or a low cabinet, leaning back later. Stand with the receiving partner’s back to the giving partner, then slowly sit back and straddle the giving partner’s lap (similar to a reverse sitting position).
– Advantages: The giving partner can easily lick, stroke or stimulate the receiving partner’s anal area with fingers/toys. The receptive partner has full control over how fast and how deep he goes down (for anal sex). The standing position also makes it easier to receive a partner while stimulating your own clitoris.
– How to add interest: When stimulating the anus of the partner, you can simultaneously stimulate the clitoris/penis of the receiving partner with your hands or toys. Both parties can masturbate each other. Using a specialized anal lubricant is crucial!
– Comfort adjustment:
– Height Match: The key is to find a height that is comfortable for both parties. The position where the giving partner sits (bed, chair, cupboard) needs to roughly match the height of the receiving partner’s hips when standing. The receiving partner can adjust by slightly bending their knees.
– Furniture Support: The accepting partner can maintain balance by holding on to a wall or stable furniture (such as a dresser).
– Gradual adaptation: This position is more suitable for partners who have some experience in anal sex. It needs to be fully relaxed, lubricated and carried out gradually.
Take Control of the Ride (The Queen of Bondage)
– Key points of the pose: This pose is based on the traditional “Queen’s pose” (reverse female on top) and can incorporate elements of light restraint. The partner below lies on his back. The top partner sits astride the bottom partner with their back to their face (reverse riding). The upper partner supports the weight of the body on hands and feet, and hangs the buttocks above the lower partner’s face to perform oral sex, or moves back and forth to place the vagina above the partner’s mouth. You can use a soft blindfold, a tie or a special restraint to gently restrain the lower partner’s wrists in advance (advance communication and explicit consent is required!).
– Advantages: Gives the upper partner a strong sense of control. The companion below specializes in providing oral services. Incorporating elements of bondage (even if it’s mild) can add to the excitement and power exchange experience. The back-to-back position makes the partner on top feel more comfortable.
– How to add interest: The upper partner can move forward and backward to adjust the position and control the intensity and method of stimulation. Use feathers, ice particles and other items for sensory stimulation. Blindfolding can enhance the sensual focus of your partner below. The partner above can stimulate yourself.
– Comfort adjustment:
– Wrist comfort: If you restrain your wrists, make sure the restraints are soft, wide and not too tight, leaving room for movement and can be safely released at any time. Place pillows under your partner’s head and neck.
– Support and protection: The upper partner mainly relies on his hands and feet to support his weight, and soft pads can be placed under his palms and knees.
– Weight reduction concerns: If you are worried about weight, the upper partner can rely entirely on his own hands and feet for support, with the buttocks suspended in the air without touching the lower partner’s body, and only place the vagina above the partner’s mouth for him to actively serve. Using a specially designed sex chair can provide better support.
– Safeword: If bondage or power exchange is involved, be sure to set a clear safeword beforehand.