Female on top, missionary position, 69 pose… Among the many positions, female-dominated positions (such as female on top) stand out with their unique charm. Whether it’s the thrill of controlling the rhythm or the freedom of adjusting the angle and depth to pursue ultimate satisfaction, this type of posture is very popular.
Exploring the path to the pinnacle of pleasure is a pleasure in itself. Whether you’re looking for direction for the first time or eager to add something new to your intimate life, here are eight female-dominated positions worth experiencing with your partner.
Why do you prefer femdom positions?
– Sense of control: Being at the top allows you to actively control the rhythm, intensity and stimulation methods, making it easier to find the most comfortable and pleasant state. Sex therapist Aleksandra Trkulja stresses that this is especially ideal for women who find deep penetration uncomfortable, or who need simultaneous external clitoral stimulation to reach orgasm.
– Efficient Orgasms: Research shows that external stimulation (particularly the clitoris) is key or an important aid in achieving orgasm for many women. The female-on-top position allows women to stimulate the clitoris and G-spot at the same time by themselves or by guiding their partners, making it easier to achieve mixed orgasms.
– Emotional connection: The process of active control can enhance your self-confidence and sense of power, allowing you to fully control the source of your pleasure. At the same time, this proactive gesture can also significantly enhance your partner’s sexual arousal, emotional connection, and overall pleasure.
How to choose the best posture?
The best position depends on your body structure, flexibility, personal preference, and your partner’s comfort level! The key is to communicate, confirm and express consent, try different positions with your partner, explore the limits and desires of both parties, and find the combination that suits you best:
Queen’s Favor (Quench/Face Sitting)
– Position: With your partner lying on their back, you can choose to kneel or squat, straddling their face.
– Pleasure point: Provides an excellent perspective of oral sex, allowing you to be completely immersed in the pleasure of being served. You precisely control pressure, angle, and position through the movement of your hips.
– Interesting upgrade:
– Eye contact can greatly enhance intimacy.
– Your partner can touch your breasts with his hands or you can stroke his or her hair.
– This position also makes it easier for your partner to lick your anus (both parties need to agree and pay attention to hygiene). The nerves in the anal area are dense, which can bring unique pleasure.
Liberated Lover
– Position: Use a standard female top position to sit astride your supine partner, then slowly tilt your upper body backwards, and place your hands on your partner’s thighs or behind you (your partner can bend his knees to support you).
– Pleasure point: The backward tilt position changes the angle of insertion and makes room for your partner (or yourself) to more easily stimulate the clitoris directly and accurately, which is especially effective for many women who require clitoral stimulation to reach orgasm.
– Interesting upgrade:
– Ideal for use with clitoral vibrators, sucking toys, etc.
– Try rocking your hips back and forth instead of bouncing up and down to enhance G-spot stimulation.
Mount Pleasant
– Position: Your partner sits on the sofa, edge of the bed, or on a stable chair. You sit face to face on his legs, place your knees on both sides of his hips, and adjust his position so that his mouth faces your vulva.
– Pleasure point: Allows you to easily enjoy oral sex services, immersed in pleasure without any effort, and at the same time appreciate your partner’s expression of devotion.
– Interesting upgrade:
– Your partner can use your fingers to stimulate the G-spot in the vagina at the same time during oral sex.
– Partners can also use a G-spot vibrator or dildo in conjunction with oral sex for dual stimulation.
Pleasure Plunge/fixed type
– Position: Your partner bends over and leans on a stable surface at hip height such as the edge of the bed or counter. You (if using a wearable dildo) stand behind it and move your hips back and forth for anal penetration. Be sure to use plenty of special anal lubricant!
– Pleasure point: For a partner (regardless of gender) with a prostate, anal stimulation can be intensely pleasurable. You enjoy the control of penetration and the view of your partner’s body.
– Interesting upgrade:
– Reach forward to stimulate your partner’s genitals (penis or clitoris), using a toy to achieve a mixed orgasm.
– The partner can also masturbate during the procedure.
Intertwined lotuses
– Position: Partner sits cross-legged. You sit astride his legs facing each other, wrapping your legs around his waist. Genital friction can be performed, or the body can be embraced closely after being included in the body, mainly relying on the back and forth/circumferential friction movement of the buttocks.
– Pleasure Points: The ultimate intimate position that promotes deep emotional connection, eye contact, kissing and hugging. Focus on friction rather than strenuous movement.
– Interesting upgrade:
– Use a wearable couples vibrator, like a cock ring or this type of toy, to provide distraction-free clitoral stimulation and partner sensation.
– Whisper in your ear and describe your feelings and desires.
Thigh Master
– Position: Partner lies on his back with one leg bent at the knee. You face the direction of his knees and straddle his raised thighs. Use the curve of its thigh for friction (lubricant can be applied).
– Pleasure point: Focus on strong and direct friction stimulation of the clitoris, outer labia, and perineal area. Your partner can watch the rhythm of your arched back.
– Interesting upgrade:
– The labia can be spread slightly apart for more precise clitoral friction.
– This position also makes it easier for your partner to stimulate your anus at the same time (such as massaging or using anal toys).
Reverse Cowgirl
– Position: Partner sits on the edge of a supported chair or sofa. Sit on your partner’s legs with your back to them, bend your knees at both sides of his body, and use your hands to support his knees or use your own back to lend support.
– Pleasure Point: Allows for deeper, longer vaginal or anal penetration. Your partner has an excellent view of the curves of your back and hips.
– Interesting upgrade:
– Add anal stimulation (with partner assistance or using a toy) and experience mixed pleasures.
– It can be combined with light restraint (such as blindfolding and hand binding) to add a sense of control and submission.
Bound Queen
– Position: The partner lies on his back with his hands stretched above his head (can be tied to the head of the bed or allowed to hold himself). You kneel above his head, facing his feet, and slowly lower your body to his face to perform oral sex (similar to the high 69 position, with your hands on the side of your partner’s head).
– Pleasure points: On the basis of “Throne’s Favor”, the element of power exchange (BDSM) is added. Bonding your partner enhances your sense of absolute control. You can take the initiative to tease by approaching their genitals.
– Interesting upgrade:
– Boundaries, safe words, and methods of release must be fully communicated in advance.
– Incorporate role play and sexual fantasy sharing.
– Use costumes and props to enhance the atmosphere.
– Enjoy the feeling of power of controlling the pace and giving the “reward” (oral sex).
– Safe Word is an absolute must! Make sure the restraint method is safe and can be released quickly, pay attention to your partner’s status at all times, and respect their right to stop.
The core of the journey of discovery:
These eight positions are the keys to unlocking the door to exploration. Remember, the “best” position is always the one where you both feel comfortable, connected, and able to enjoy pleasure. Keep an open mind, actively communicate about each other’s preferences and boundaries, put safety first, and enjoy this intimate journey full of discovery and happiness together.