Squirting (Female Ejaculation) often refers to the phenomenon of women squirting or leaking liquid from the urethra during sexual stimulation. It has attracted much attention because of its mystery and intense sensory experience. There are various theories floating around, but one thing is clear: this phenomenon is real and some women can experience it.
The Nature of Squirting and the Mystery of Liquids
The first thing to emphasize is that everyone’s body is unique. The manifestations of female orgasm vary greatly. Whether they can squirt and whether they desire to squirt vary from person to person. Not being able to squirt or not being interested in it is completely normal and reasonable. Your body and pleasure patterns deserve respect in their own right.
Orgasms themselves have multiple physical and mental benefits for women (e.g., relieve stress, improve sleep, may help relieve menstrual discomfort), whether accompanied by squirting or not. Pursuing squirting can be a goal, but sexual pleasure is a highly personal experience that should never be pressured by others to learn or achieve.
So, what exactly is squirting?
– Definition: Squirting is the phenomenon of fluid squirting or flowing out of the female urethra (the tube that connects the bladder to the outside world) under intense sexual stimulation (usually involving the G-spot area). It doesn’t necessarily coincide with orgasm, but many experiencers describe it as being accompanied by intense pleasure.
– Types and sources of liquids (scientific knowledge):
– Squirting Fluid: usually refers to a large, colorless, light-smelling or almost odorless liquid. Its origin is scientifically disputed, with the mainstream view being that its main component is dilute urine, which comes from the bladder. Rapid bladder filling during sexual stimulation combined with relaxation of the pelvic floor muscles may lead to its expulsion.
– Female Ejaculate: The amount is usually small, milky white, viscous, and the composition is closer to prostatic fluid. It is thought to originate primarily from Skene’s Glands. These glands are located on either side of the urethra, near the front wall of the vagina. Their ducts open into the urethra and are sometimes called the “female prostate.” The fluid they produce is rich in components such as prostate-specific antigen (PSA).
– IMPORTANT NOTE: These two liquids may be mixed and vary greatly from person to person. Scientific research on the composition of fluids (especially whether squirting fluids contain urine) is still ongoing and the jury is still out.
The Squirting Experience: How Does It Feel?
From a physiological perspective, when squirting occurs, the erectile tissue around the urethra is congested and the nerve endings are highly sensitive. Sex therapy expert Dr. Madeline Castellanos describes it as possibly accompanied by “a stinging sensation as urine passes through the engorged urethra.”
Descriptions from experiencers often include:
– A strong sense of release: like a sudden burst of built-up stress.
– An urge to urinate: Before or during squirting, there may be a strong urge to urinate.
– Immersive orgasmic experience: Dr. Castellanos points out that squirting is sometimes a way for women to experience “complete immersion” in orgasm, which, if enjoyed, can significantly increase the intensity of the sexual experience.
– Individual differences: The duration, intensity and whether the orgasm is accompanied by a squirting sensation vary from person to person.
Discovering Squirting: How to Try It?
If you’re interested in trying squirting, here are a few key principles to keep in mind:
– Let go of expectations and accept the possibility: The first step is to accept that it might not happen. Not all women can squirt. Stress, anxiety (such as worrying about getting the sheets wet) or past negative experiences can all get in the way. Relaxation and comfort are fundamental.
– Be well prepared:
– Environment: Lay absorbent towels, diaper pads or old sheets under you to avoid the hassle and worry of cleaning up afterwards.
– Mindset: Reserve sufficient, uninterrupted time. Create a relaxing atmosphere (e.g. music, comfortable temperature). Clear out any distracting thoughts or stressors that may interfere with relaxation.
– Fully aroused:
– Foreplay is crucial: without adequate sexual arousal, squirting is almost impossible to occur. Focus on exploring the sensitive areas of your body (such as chest, neck, ears, inner thighs, etc.) to completely “heat” your body.
– G-spot stimulation is key: The G-spot is usually located on the front wall of the vagina (toward the abdomen), about 1-3 inches from the vaginal opening. Try using your fingers or a sex toy designed specifically for the G-spot (such as an elbow massage stick), and use your fingertips to make pressing, stroking, circular or “come-and-go” movements. Look for a slightly raised, grainy or spongy area and apply rhythmic, gradually increasing pressure.
– Feel the signals and go with the flow:
– When you continue to stimulate the G-spot, you may feel pressure building up deep in your pelvic cavity, or even have a strong urge to urinate. Try to go with the feeling instead of suppressing it. Sometimes relaxing the pelvic floor muscles (as in allowing urination) is key.
– If it feels difficult to reach, try a different position. Some positions (such as lying on your back with your knees bent, kneeling down, woman on top) may be more conducive to reaching the G-spot and applying pressure. Using sex toys can help with ergonomic issues.
– Combined with clitoral stimulation: If tried with a partner, combined with oral sex or direct clitoral stimulation (if enjoyed) can greatly enhance pleasure, making it easier to reach the breaking point.
– Patience and process:
– The presence of all the “signs” does not guarantee squirting. It may take several attempts to master the technique, and for some, it may take longer.
– At its core, it is about enjoying the process: exploring the body, experiencing pleasure, feeling intimate or loved (whether alone or with a partner), these processes are full of value in themselves. Squirting is not the only criterion or necessary goal of sexual pleasure. Your sexual pleasure and satisfaction is what really matters.
Squirting is a real physiological phenomenon that varies greatly among individuals. Understanding the scientific background helps dispel myths, and the experience of trying it is all about relaxation, exploration, and enjoyment of sexual pleasure itself. No matter what the result is, respecting the body’s feelings and enjoying the journey of exploration is the true meaning of sexual health.