Yes, you read that right! Female ejaculation (often referred to as “squirting”) is a real physiological phenomenon, and it does have some strange similarities with male ejaculation in terms of “fluid release” – so strange that we often have to lay out towels in advance, or prepare to change the sheets!
What exactly is female ejaculation?
Simply put, it refers to the fluid that squirts or flows out of the female urethra during orgasm or intense sexual excitement. Here’s the kicker: the urethral opening is also the channel through which urine exits (thanks to our bladders!). But don’t get me wrong, squirting is not incontinence!
Where does semen come from? What are the ingredients?
Women don’t have testicles or a prostate, so where does the fluid come from? The secret lies in Skene’s glands, also known as paraurethral glands. These glands are located on either side of the urethra, near the front wall of the vagina. They’re sometimes nicknamed the “female prostate,” but that’s just because the nomenclature is imprecise—they function similarly (secret fluid) but are not really prostates.
There are two main types of fluids ejaculated by women:
– Squirting Fluid: Usually large in volume, colorless, odorless or light yellow, and contains water, uric acid, urea and creatinine (some components overlap with urine, but it is not pure urine).
– Female Ejaculate: is less in volume, more viscous, milky white or transparent in color, and its composition is closer to the precursor of male prostate fluid, containing prostate-specific antigen (PSA) and other substances.
Is squirting normal? Will it happen at the same time as the climax?
– Absolutely normal! Squirting is a normal and potentially intensely pleasurable experience during sex.
– Is it common? Not all women experience it, but it’s by no means uncommon. Studies (such as this one from 2024) suggest that approximately 10% to 54% of women experience squirting, with the amount of fluid ejaculated varying widely (ranging from 0.3ml to 150ml). Even more interesting is that among women who squirt, about 19% report that it happens almost every time they have sex.
– Relationship to climax? Squirting does not necessarily coincide with vaginal or clitoral orgasm, but it can occur with orgasm. Many women who have experienced it describe the feeling as “amazing”!
How to squirt during sex?
Want to explore the possibilities of squirting? Here are some key points:
– Relax and relieve stress: this is the most important step! Forcing yourself or your partner to squirt is counterproductive. Accept that it “probably won’t happen” and focus on enjoying the process itself. Safety, psychological well-being, and an intimate connection with your partner (if you have one) are crucial.
– Be prepared and worry-free: lay out towels, waterproof mats or old sheets! Thinking about the “aftermath” issues in advance can make you more relaxed during the process, and you don’t have to worry about “flooding gold mountains”. (Indoor “monsoon” warning!)
– Relax physically and mentally and immerse yourself in the moment: Full physical and mental relaxation is the foundation. If negative experiences in the past (such as being shamed) have caused you concerns, try exploring them again in a safe and comfortable environment and mindset. Focus on how your body feels, not on your “goals.”
– Full arousal and accumulation of energy: Strong sexual arousal is a prerequisite. Invest in plenty of foreplay – this isn’t just physical contact, it can also be erotic conversation, slow dancing, etc., with the goal of increasing overall sexual energy. Let your body know it’s time to feel pleasure!
– Focused G-spot stimulation: Finding and stimulating the G-spot (located on the front wall of the vagina, about 1-3 inches deep, toward the abdomen) is often key. Use your fingers, a sex toy, or your partner’s hand to apply steady, firm, rhythmic pressure. Experiment with rowing or making circles to find the rhythm and intensity that feels most comfortable to you, and gradually increase the pressure.
– Combined stimulation for better results: G-spot stimulation alone is effective, but combining it with clitoral stimulation or other sexual activities you like (such as oral sex) can often bring a more intense experience, and you may even reach multiple orgasms at the same time (such as G-spot orgasm + squirting).
– Is penetrative sex possible? Sex coaches and experts (like Gigi Engle) generally agree that manual or toy stimulation is more likely to trigger squirting than penis/dildo penetration. Penetrative intercourse is also possible, but may require more G-spot-specific angles and pressure.
– Partner collaboration, deep connection: If with a partner, a deep physical and emotional connection is a plus. Eye contact, synchronized breathing, and communication of preferences and feelings can make the person receiving stimulation more relaxed and engaged, increasing the possibility of squirting.
– Respect individual differences and try patiently: every woman’s body is unique! Your sensitivity and reaction may be different from others. It may take several attempts, or it may happen naturally when you are most relaxed (or even no longer consciously pursuing it). Explore patiently and enjoy the process itself.
Key reminder:
– Distinguish between squirting and urinary incontinence: Squirting is the release of fluid during sexual arousal, which is different from sexual incontinence (urine leakage) caused by relaxation of pelvic floor muscles and other reasons. If you are having trouble with urinary incontinence, it is recommended to consult a sexual health or urologist.
– Enjoy the journey of discovery: Squirting is not a “must have” or “achievement indicator” for sex. The most important thing is to explore the body’s pleasurable potential in a safe, comfortable, and respectful atmosphere. Relax, lay out a towel, and enjoy this amazing adventure!