Clitoral stimulation is, for many people with a clitoris, the key to achieving orgasm, enhancing sexual pleasure and promoting natural lubrication. Research shows that a significant proportion of women or people assigned female at birth (AFAB) require clitoral stimulation to reach orgasm. So whether you’re trying to please yourself or a partner, it’s crucial to know how to stimulate your clitoris effectively.
Clitoris: the center of pleasure
– Location: Located at the front of the vulva, below the clitoral foreskin, about 2.5-4 cm above the vaginal opening and urethral opening. When standing, it is in front of the vagina and urethra.
– Structure: The visible clitoral glans is just the “tip of the iceberg”. The clitoral tissue is wishbone-shaped, and its internal structures (clitoral crura and body) extend along the vaginal wall and about 12 centimeters (5 inches) into the body, making it also sensitive to pressure within the vagina.
– Function: The only known function of the clitoris is to provide sexual pleasure! It is highly sensitive and densely packed with nerve endings (far more than the current “8,000” number; the actual number may be more and varies from person to person).
How to enhance clitoral stimulation?
Before discussing postures, it is important to master the methods:
– Make good use of sex toys: vibrators (especially small bullet-shaped or suction toys designed for the clitoris), massagers, etc. are great tools for providing precise or extensive stimulation.
– Choose a hands-free position: Prioritize positions that allow you or your partner’s hands to move freely, allowing simultaneous stimulation of the clitoris during penetration.
– Try grinding: Stimulating the clitoris is effective through frictional movements of the pelvis against your partner’s body (e.g. pubic bone, thighs) or a suitable object.
– Clever use of auxiliary props: pillows, wedge-shaped cushions, etc. can help adjust the angle, maintain posture, and create the ideal friction position and comfort.
How long does clitoral stimulation take?
There is no standard answer! The time varies from person to person and from situation to situation, and may range from tens of seconds to dozens of minutes. The key is to pay attention to your body’s response and give it the time and stimulation it needs.
10 Best Sex Positions for Clitoral Stimulation
CAT Position (Coital Alignment Technique):
– How to do it: Modified Preacher. The recipient lies on her back and the inserter is positioned slightly higher (further up the body) than in traditional missionary. The recipient’s legs can be placed together or around the inserter’s calves.
– Stimulation point: The inserter’s pubic bone directly rubs the recipient’s clitoris. The thrusting is shallower and more focused on friction and rocking than deep penetration.
– Advantages: face-to-face intimacy, direct clitoral friction.
Doggy style (hands-free version):
– How to do it: The recipient is on hands and knees, and the intruder enters from behind. The recipient can lower his or her upper body (such as lying on the edge of the bed or on a mat).
– Exciting point: Free your hands! The recipient or penetrator can stimulate the clitoris directly with their hands or a toy.
– Advantages: Deep insertion possible, convenient for manual or toy stimulation.
Deskside style:
– How to do it: The recipient lies on their back with their buttocks on the edge of a bed, couch, or stable table. The person doing the penetration stands in front. Both parties can have their hands free.
– Stimulation point: Both partners can stimulate the clitoris with their hands or toys. The inserter can lean forward to increase the pressure of the pubic bone on the clitoris.
– Advantages: face-to-face intimacy, easy eye contact, and free hands for both parties.
Legs crossed:
– How to do it: (can be combined with missionary or tableside positions) The recipient lies on their back with their legs raised over the inserter’s shoulders, then crossed at the ankles or calves.
– Stimulation points: Crossing your legs increases vaginal tightness and pressure on the clitoral area. The inserter leans forward to intensify the friction.
– Benefits: Changes angle, increases tightness and clitoral pressure.
Butterfly pose:
– How to do it: Advanced tableside variation. The recipient lies on his back with his buttocks close to the edge of the bed, his buttocks raised, and his legs placed on the inserter’s shoulders (pillows can be used to support the buttocks). The inserter stands.
– Stimulation point: The recipient can stimulate the clitoris with their hands or a toy. Gravity and angle are good for G-spot stimulation.
– Advantages: Deep penetration is possible, easy for the recipient to masturbate, and the inserter can control the rhythm.
Lotus pose:
– How to do it: The inserter sits cross-legged or with legs straight. The recipient sits astride him, facing each other, with his legs wrapped around the penetrator’s waist and his arms embracing each other.
– Stimulation points: Close physical contact and friction (especially the pubic area) can stimulate the clitoris. The recipient controls the rocking or up-and-down motion of the pelvis.
– Advantages: Extreme intimacy, deep embrace, both parties can dominate the friction.
Cowboy pose (face to face lotus pose):
– How to do it: The inserter lies on his back. The recipient sits astride it, facing the penetrator’s head, with his knees on either side of his body to control the movements.
– Stimulation point: The recipient can freely adjust the angle to find the best clitoral friction point, or stimulate directly with hands/toys.
– Pros: Receiver has full control of pace, depth and angles.
Reverse Cowboy Pose (Back in Lotus Pose):
– How to do it: The inserter lies on his back. The recipient sits astride it, facing the penetrator’s feet, controlling the movement.
– Stimulation points: Different from the angle of forward female top position, different areas may be stimulated. The recipient can also use hands/toys to stimulate the clitoris.
– Advantages: Receiver control, providing different perspectives and stimulating feelings.
Side saddle:
– How to do it: The inserter lies on his back with one leg bent at the knee and foot on the ground (or bed). The recipient is mounted in a reverse cowgirl position, with her body leaning toward the side of the penetrator’s bent leg.
– Stimulation point: The recipient’s clitoral area rubs against the penetrator’s flexed thigh during the movement.
– Advantages: Unique friction angle, the inserter’s flexed legs provide extra stimulation.
V-shaped victory formula:
– How to do it: The recipient lies on his back with his legs raised and straightened into a “V” shape. As the inserter enters, the forearms of the upper body can be pressed against the recipient’s calf (or both parties can hold the ankles). The inserter can apply pressure forward and downward.
– Stimulation point: The pubic bone directly rubs the clitoris when the inserter presses forward. You can also press the clitoris area by making circular motions, rocking motions, etc. after deep penetration.
– Advantages: Deep penetration is possible, and the pressure from the pubic bone to the clitoris is concentrated.
Happy exploring!
Whether you’re a newbie or a seasoned pro, these positions can bring new experiences to clitoral stimulation. Core principles:
– Communication is key When trying new positions, keep open communication with your partner to ensure you are both comfortable and happy.
– Put comfort first and don’t force your body to do uncomfortable movements. Use pillows and cushions to assist.
– There is no “one right” way to explore and enjoy. The most important thing is to explore what makes you and your partner feel best and enjoy the process!